Let me just start off by saying that I am an extremely competitive person – I do not like to lose, and that spills over into every area of my life.
My competitive nature is not something I can simply turn on and off, so it tends to creep into my everyday activities. This happened not long ago during a disagreement with my wife.
We had taken a trip across the state to visit family. In between our time visiting, I was able to catch up on some social media. I inevitably ended up on Facebook stalking, I mean, looking at other people’s profiles.
I happened to come upon a particular person that had a status that I did not agree with. My wife was sitting beside me on the couch, so I proceeded to tell her why I didn’t like it and what I thought of the person because of it.
One of the reasons I married my wife is because she is always honest, sometimes brutally. It would have been easy for her to just nod and agree with my reasoning, but she didn’t. She told me straight up that I was wrong.
I mentioned earlier that I am a competitive person, and I took this as a challenge. Was she questioning my judgment?
I took a moment and prepared an argument in my head. I then set out to prove, beyond a reasonable doubt, that I was right.
I gave reason after reason as to why I was correct in my assessment. She just kept saying, “You’re wrong”.
Then it happened, that moment we all dread. I realized half way through the disagreement that I was indeed wrong.
This is not an easy thing to admit when you are committed to winning an argument, but what else could I do? She was right.
It really made me question how I view people. While I agree that people post things on Facebook that they shouldn’t, some of us are just better at hiding our imperfections. No, we do not broadcast them to the world like some do; but does the fact that someone posts a status or tweets something make it worse than us saying the same thing to our friends? I would say not.
All too often, we talk about other people’s problems as if we have none of our own. To use a Biblical example, we are pointing out a speck in someone’s eye when we have a beam hanging out of our own. (Matthew 7:5)
Only after pulling the beams out of our eyes will we be able to effectively reach people. As a Christian, there is no way I can have any impact in someone’s life if I am constantly berating them behind their back. I’m not saying that I have totally conquered that area of my life, but I’m at least trying to get the 2×4 out of my eye.
What is the beam in your eye?