If you have children (or have ever been a child), then you have inevitably played the “I’ve got your nose” game.
The game is quite simple. It begins with an adult pretending to rip the nostrils right off the face of a little kid. They then proceed to taunt them by dangling the detached nose in front of them. The only winner is the adult, because after years of enduring this as a child, they are finally the nose snatcher.
I have a little boy that is not quite three. Over the last couple of weeks I have been taking his nose. The first time he just looked at me like I was crazy. After a few more times of me pretending to pull his nose off, he began to believe me. Now when I take his nose, he gets quite concerned. Even a three year old knows that you need a nose.
As I played with him over the weekend, I realized that grown people are not that much different than my little boy.
Would you believe someone could pinch your nose off? Probably not. But are there things that we believe that are just as absurd?
Why does my son believe that I am actually taking his nose?
There are two reasons that came to mind that had application to us grown ups.
First, he believes it because his daddy told him so. To a three year old, the parents are usually the major influencers in their lives. When I tell him that I have his nose, as crazy as that sounds, he believes me.
Who is it in your life that you have given that status? Is there someone that you are letting control you in that way? Just because someone says you can’t do something doesn’t make it true. After all, Christopher Columbus was told not to go west, and Henry Ford was told the automobile was just a fad.
Second, I show him proof. After pulling his nose off, I hold out my hand and show him. Protruding from in-between my index and middle finger is my thumb, which I tell him is his nose. He has never questioned me. He has never gone to look in a mirror. He blindly takes my word for it, because after all, I’m holding it in my hands right in front of him.
What kind of proof are people dangling in front of you? Do we blindly take their word without checking for ourselves? There are so many amazingly talented people out there that think someone “has their nose”. If only they would just look in the mirror they would know it wasn’t true. Instead we are only left to wonder what could have been.
Don’t let other people define who you are and who you want to become.
Make sure you know the difference between fact and fiction when it comes to proof.
Everyone has doubts.
At the end of the day, it is what you do with those doubts that matter.
Question: What have you done to get your nose back? What has worked and what hasn’t?