The idea of success can be a tricky topic.
It seems that most want it. Few achieve it. Even fewer hold onto it once they have it.
When I was in the 8th grade, I saw a commercial that told me that I needed shoes that had tiny shocks on them. That was the first ever commercial for the then unreleased Nike Shox.
With basketball season fast approaching, I had to have those shoes.
There was one problem. My parents didn’t pay $150 for shoes.
Somehow, I was able to talk them into letting me take $75 out of my savings account. They agreed to pay the rest.
The day finally came. I walked into Foot Locker and asked for the Shox. Black and white. Size 13.
I just knew that once I put those shoes on that I would instantly be able to run faster and jump higher – not to mention have the coolest shoes on the team.
Turns out they didn’t improve my speed or increase my jumping ability, and on top of that, I wasn’t the only person on the team to have them. So that took away from the coolness factor.
Those shoes that I thought would make me happy are probably at the bottom of a landfill somewhere.
You see, after a while, they lost their shine. They began to wear out. They got pushed to the back of my closet.
Success is a lot like that pair of shoes.
The things that we think will bring us success – money, fame, possessions, power – just leave us wanting more.
Were people like Elvis, Michael Jackson, and Whitney Houston successes?
Did their great achievements make them a success or lead them to failure.
All three died of drug overdoses trying to escape the reality of their apparent success.
That doesn’t strike me as success.
So often the destination becomes what we view as success. When I have that certain dollar amount in the bank or when I get that job promotion, then I will be a success.
This view of success causes us to miss out on the most important parts of life.
Those in-between moments.
The time in-between where we are and where we want to be is what will define our lives.
Many people spend a lifetime in search of something more than what is right in front of them.
Your spouse. Your children. Friendships.
The times we don’t stay late at work to come home and eat supper with the family. The times we are exhausted after a hard day but decide to spend time playing with our kids anyway. Going to church on Sunday instead of sleeping in.
These are things that will be remembered.
These are the in-between moments.
Use them well!
What do you consider success? How can you better use your “in-between” moments?