I often hear people talk about the “good old days”. A time when life was simpler, people were kinder, and they were younger.
As people reflect on times passed, they seem to almost drift back to that time. As they tell their story, they are in a way reliving the experience.
Then the story ends. They are back in the here and now, far from their good old days.
I was recently at a Christmas party with my grandmother.
She is in overall good health, but lives at an assisted living community.
As we walked in, she lit up when she saw us. We hugged and exchanged hellos.
Christmas isn’t quite the same with Grandma anymore though.
Christmas was always a special time at her house. A time to gather as a family. A time to talk about times passed. A time to reminisce.
Unfortunately my grandma has dementia. While she can remember events from 40 years ago, she has no idea that I came to see her this Christmas. She doesn’t remember me telling her that I love her or my little kids hugging her legs.
Dementia is a terrible disease.
Her good old days have come and gone.
She is permanently stuck in times passed.
This caused me to look back at what I considered my good old days. The more I thought, the more I realized that I am living them.
I will one day look back on this time with fondness. I will only have pictures of what are now my young children.
I will remember when I could carry them both on my shoulders. I will remember my little boy telling me how much he loves me, and my little girl running to hug my knees when I get home.
For now though, I am here. It is up to me to create my own good old days.
I have come to see that the good old days are not things that happen to us – they are the times that we happened to life.
Every day is another day in the good old days.
Every minute is a moment to create a memory, make an impact, or forge a legacy.
Wherever you find yourself in life, know that these are the good old days.
What can you do to embrace your own good old days?