I’ve always enjoyed basketball. I played growing up and still do once a week.
While I appreciate the athletic nature of the sport, the mental aspect is my favorite.
In high school, my varsity coach taught me a lot about the game, but what I remember most had little to do with basketball at all.
He taught us that basketball and life were a lot alike. Our decisions both on and off the court have consequences. Except that during a basketball game, the consequences were immediate.
When you make a mistake in life, the repercussions are not always immediate.
But throw a bad pass or miss a shot in a game and it affects the team right away.
Being a good husband is a lot like that.
I strive to be the best husband I can be. I read books, plan date nights, and even watch other good husbands so that I can become a better one myself.
Unfortunately though, its one thing to know what to do and another to actually do it.
“For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do – this I keep on doing.”
Those aren’t my words, that’s Paul over in Romans 7:19.
Like in basketball, when we mess up in life, we get the opportunity to decide how we respond.
Make a bad pass. You can make it up on defense.
Have a bad attitude about washing dishes. Make up for it on the next play.
I know I’m not the only man out there who dreads helping in the kitchen.
Just this past weekend I miffed on an opportunity to be the better husband that I say I want to be by having a bad attitude when asked to lend a hand in the kitchen.
I have to remember though that it’s not my failures that define me, it’s how I respond to them.
No one expects you to hit every shot. Perfection isn’t the goal.
Even Michael Jordan missed shots. 12,345 misses to be exact.
That’s not what we remember about him though. We remember him for always striving to get better. We remember him for being the best there ever was.
You may not ever be the best, but you can always be better.
Don’t throw in the towel.
Don’t give up.
Failing isn’t final. It’s an opportunity to do better next time.
If you’re anything like me, that means we should have plenty of opportunities to do better.
2015 is the year I have decided to take control of key aspects of my life. I’m happy to report that after having a bad attitude when asked to help in the kitchen, I made up for it on the next play by surprising my wife by cleaning the bedroom and bathroom.
Nothing great and amazing, but it was a small win for me in taking control of my attitude.
How about you? What do you do when you know you’ve blown it? Have you had any small (or big) wins lately?